Appreciate feelings
Appreciation? So that we can have ours Appreciate feelings To do this, we first have to find out which feelings are important to us at the moment. Then the question arises: What feelings arise from my environment? Of course, we bring our own feelings with us that are part of our character, but we are also open to our environment and the people who surround us. There are people who are very aware of the atmosphere around them and others are less so. But our environment generally has an effect on us. We feel intuitively whether the atmosphere feels good or the place, the people or the situation doesn't feel good.
Negative feelings should be viewed in the same way as positive ones. First of all, it is important to listen to yourself. There are many methods that can help you take a closer look at your feelings and self. For now, let's stay with the feeling of intuition, with your "Bauchgefuhl“. This method can also be tried out with several people, so let your partner or family join in. Then you can get more reflection and feedback afterwards.
Please just follow the instructions and only look at the questions afterwards.
The form and questions of the observation are particularly important; it is wonderful when you look together at what you have done and can talk openly about it. This generally makes it easier to discuss important topics, including conflicts or sensitive topics. Because you don't feel like you're the focus and vulnerable, but you're looking at something else together.
These methods come from art therapy. I particularly like them because they take the severity out of the symptoms and you can choose one or more methods that are good for everyday life. It's more like a game that you play together to understand and get to know yourself better. Especially the feelings that are there intuitively 😉
Materials:
Colorful construction paper and scissors.
Preparation: Cut out approximately 27 large squares of different colors and an equal number of smaller/half-sized squares.
Method: Everyone places one or more large squares on the floor at the same time. This can be ordered or disordered, in a row or across beds.
Then, in turn, a smaller square is placed on top of a larger one. Everyone only has one or two colors. Imagine that the small squares are children in the schoolyard and you give each child the most beautiful place, the background/large square, where they feel most comfortable. Make sure that the small squares/students feel comfortable in their place, but also in their surroundings.
The neighboring squares are also crucial. Try to create an overall picture that each of you is happy with. So when you're done, ask yourself again which corner you like, i.e. which children are sure to feel comfortable in their place and which ones don't yet. Then rearrange the cards so that each child feels comfortable on their background.
Don't read any further until you're done!
No.. Don't be tempted to read on!
Once you're done, you can now continue reading 😉
Viewing together
When viewing together, there are a few rules of the game:
1. Let the others make excuses - everything is important!
2. Do not rate any statement negatively, only express your own opinion, e.g. B. I think.. It seems that way to me..
3. Disturbances have priority, if a topic comes to the table that was not currently asked or discussed, it seems to have some meaning and initially takes priority.
So now to the questions that can be expanded or shortened.
Question: What do you notice?
Ask yourself, how does the color affect you? How would the color feel?
Question: Which child probably feels the most comfortable?
Question: Which one would you like to be?
Question: Why do you think that?
Question: How does it feel for you there?
Questions: Is it not quite right yet? Are you still missing something?
Question: What would you need around you to make you feel even more comfortable?
How far do you want to go?
If you are standing next to each other or far away, which environment is important to whom, try to relate these topics to your everyday life.
Question: Why are you near or far?..?
Question: What do you need in everyday life to feel better?
Question: Which environment and which contexts are important to you?
Change of location, but it can also be a different place next time, because a methodical game should never last too long as it can be very intense.
Question: What would you need at work to feel better?
Question for children: What do you need at home to feel more comfortable?
Question: What would you need at school to feel comfortable?
Family Question: What does our family need to feel better?
You can probably think of even more specific questions yourself. Then definitely let it happen spontaneously! Because this is the only way deeper topics can develop.
Thank you for committing to getting closer to yourself and your loved ones. We hope you have become more aware of some of your feelings. Now take the resulting thoughts with you and let them work a little. Maybe while taking a walk with an eye for the spaces in between.
Other topics:
Now I take time to appreciate!