“You’re just like your mother!” A sentence that we’ve probably all heard before. We usually don't find much positive in this remark. But why actually? You automatically only take on the bad qualities and are therefore not particularly proud of them, certain ones Features to share with your mother? That's really what's behind it.
Everything starts at birth
The first parallels to our parents are noticed the day we are born. She got her hair and eyes from her mother. Of course, brown-haired parents usually don't produce redheads. There are genetic reasons for this. But when we got to a certain age, we suddenly realized that not only were we taking over their appearance, to a certain extent, but even worse, we were also taking over their behavior.
This phenomenon can also be explained. After all, mom and dad were our big role models back then. They showed us how to do it in their own way and influenced us more than anyone else. As children, we copied their attitudes and their behaviors. In the first 30 years of our lives, we don't really notice them because our lives are fundamentally different from those of our parents. But take factors such as job, Relationship/Marriage, family play an increasingly important role in our lives, the parallels hit us like a blow.
Humans are creatures of habits
Our brain is responsible for the many parallels, both positive and negative, says psychotherapist Dr. Dirnberger-Puchner: “It ensures that we carry out certain actions automatically, without thinking about it. And that's because we're just used to it. Our brain stores the patterns modeled by our parents and then forms patterns and structures that we orientate ourselves towards in life and that determine our actions.”
Does this mean that sooner or later we will grow into a copy of ourselves?
All clear. Everyone Man is unique. Behaviors that our brain has once stored simply cannot be changed so easily from one day to the next. But honestly, is it really that bad to be a little bit like your own mother?